While enjoying a cheeky weekend away for my 40th I devoured the contents of a book called Shine – written by Sunrise chatter box and energy giver – Sam Armytage. Aside of being hugely entertaining and honest this book has been a really great reminder of what is important in life – how to scale back and be the best version of you. Pretty good timing as I hit reset at 40.
One of the chapters that really stirred thought was about being able to EDIT your life. In my coaching programs I work with clients to asses WHAT makes up their life and also attach their values to this -the WHY – in effect giving us the recipe for the future and what they hope to achieve. I also work on their HOW – their absolute desire for life and plan to make this happen.
Here I give you some advice on how to make an EDIT to your life.
Health & Fitness Edit
You are your own creator. We have this one vessel to help us take on this crazy life. How we treat our body also gives us clues as to how we view ourselves and our life. Do you have enough respect to treat yourself right? Are you kind to yourself? Fuel it with the right foods? I have tried many things over the years from cabbage diets to liquid lunches, butt-chewing lycra aerobics classes to a half marathon – I need to mix it up to stay engaged…Ok I get bored! I allow myself to enjoy less healthy food as long as there is a balance of healthy too. The 80/20 rule applies and I think at 40 I may have this nailed. I never use the word diet anymore – it flicks a switch that makes me feel like I am missing out.
If you need help – get it – invest in yourself – Apps like My Fitness Pal, Runkeeper, Nutritionists, Personal Trainers, Group Exercise, a friend who keeps you accountable. Make it happen – you really will reap the rewards of more movement and the right fuel.
Remove the toxic people. You know who I mean – the one that makes passive aggressive comments, the one that makes you feel inferior – the one that makes you question your abilities. I have to be really frank here – I have lost my ‘give a shit’ a little here and do not have enough time in the day to manage the demands of my family, business, fitness schedule to be worrying about others who bring me down. It is ok to shuffle the deck and choose to spend time with people that lift your spirits, day, moment. You know the ones – they make you laugh, put things into perspective and make you feel content and loved.
Sounds easy right? To do this you can do one of a few things…
Digital Edit – if you are unhappy at seeing someone else’s posts on Faceboook etc unfollow or delete them.
Real time – If you find yourself dealing with this in the ‘real world’ (imagine that!) then I would recommend telling them that you are done, wish them well and be done. No more over thinking. I had a chat with a friend this weekend -” what other people think of you is none of your business”. Get comfortable with that.
You can choose your friends…. Oh my – how many times do we get frustrated by our loved ones and not so loved ones! There are two circles I get my clients to draw – the immediate family – the extended family. How fulfilled are you with these relationships? What can you do to make them more rich? What would be the impact of NOT doing that? Asking these questions will help you put into perspective who is the most important to you and whether you can be bothered.com to do anything about it – remember we only have so many hours in the day so choose to carry your own load first – not that of others.
Here’s a scenario – a family member is needy of your time and just seems to moan constantly – it can be tiring to keep them in Camp Positivity so is it easier to sometimes not answer that call – will they call someone else? Could you do an activity that prevents talking eg go to see a movie… tactics hey!
Love what you do – do what you love. Sounds easy hey – I have clients that want to know what they are going to do when they grow up – and they are 40! Maybe you have tried a few different jobs – maybe you have been a career lifer and only worked for one company. Maybe you have studied your heart out for something that you now do not enjoy day to day. The best part of this edit is being able to reflect on your career as a whole. Performance reviews, feedback from colleagues, achievements, motivators – what has shaped your career to date and what can you ‘enhance or ditch’ to help you move forward. Again choosing to invest in this area is wise as you may get a fresh perspective or new ideas. Of course don’t just take my word for it!
Am I doing ok? Often with my business clients they are looking for the kind of direction they would get in an employed scenario – eg feedback, objectives, vision, KPIs, reward, recognition. If you are going to give your business an edit consider looking at all the different hats you wear – appraise them. What would you score yourself in terms of results or capability. Be honest here – you are only cheating yourself. Also consider where you are best spending your time – in revenue generating tasks or hanging out with time wasting duties?
You are accountable to you – set some targets – it could be around your time management or your outputs, your distractions or your need for proactive business development. If you are not sure how to even begin this edit then let me know – I am a silent but vocal business partner and support my clients in a number of areas here.
That’s a wrap
So remember this is the movie of your life and you are playing a lead role. You can choose to cut whatever scenes you need in order to make this a more interesting production. Be ok to shuffle the cast – change the proposed ending – there can always be an alternative ending – but you also need to be the Director – this movie has your name all over it! Make it an award winner! Red Carpet kind of stuff!
So if you are inspired to EDIT your career, business and life – then drop me an email – I am giving new clients (between 16th March to 20th March 2015) 40 minutes free coaching* at the end of their 3 session program – call it the movie review – this represents great value and will keep you accountable in your quest for change.
Sally-Anne Blanshard is the founder and Director of Nourish Coaching and helps people reinvent their careers, businesses and life through structured coaching programs. She has been featured on TV, Radio and is often quoted in newspapers and magazines.
* Coaching must be booked in 16-20 March and first session to occur within 30 days – only serious game changers need apply!