When you are driving do you use your mirrors?  Do you check for oncoming traffic, see what may be approaching you from all angles?  Are you aware of the journey you have made so far?

The reflection stage of coaching is a vital piece of the goal setting (and achieving) puzzle.  It enables you to see what ‘is really going on’ for you.

Drivers that do not look in their mirrors could have accidents or setbacks that add further time to their journey.

As you know from my bio my world is taken up by my business and by my children and one program we spend a lot of time watching is Thomas the Tank Engine.  Who would have thought that the Fat Controller would become an inspiration for a blog post.  He always tells the trains off for causing ‘confusion and delay’ for passenger journey’s.  So how do you reflect on your goal and how you can keep moving forward without confusion and delay?

Having a conversation with your coach is a useful way to reflect on your journey but you can also have a conversation with yourself.  Take yourself off somewhere you can concentrate, focus and think.

  • What was your goal?
  • How have you got on?
  • What success have you had?
  • How do you feel about that?
  • Where could you have made some improvements?
  • What impacted the success or setback?
  • Who was around that made a difference?
  • What would you do differently if you had a similar experience?
  • How can you adapt your journey going forward?
  • What triggers can you identify?
  • When are you most motivated?
  • What can you do right now, this minute to make a difference?

As you can see from the questions above reflection is asking yourself questions.  And more importantly answering them.  This will help you in supporting you move forward in the direction of your goal.  Adjust the journey as you need to.

I have used this example when describing the coaching process to my clients.  As your coach I am the GPS, and can tell you where you may need to turn left or right to reach your destination but ultimately it is you in the driver’s seat that makes the turn left or right.  If we hit a road block….the GPS helps you navigate a new route, you are still the driver.

Just make sure you are checking your rear view mirror from time to time.